Gifted Adults: To Tell, or Not to Tell – That is the QuestionPosted by Sonia Dabboussi | 4 comments
“It’s as plain as the nose on your face,” they say. Nothing could be more obvious. But sometimes, even though we can see the truth of the matter as clearly as a black rabbit on a fresh bed of white snow, no one else seems to notice it. So do we bring it out into the open, or not?
As gifted adults, this is a dilemma that we face on a regular basis. With our senses in high gear most of the time, we can see, hear, sense or understand things that many other people don’t even seem to realize exist.
When we’re in someone’s presence, or even sometimes even if we just hear them from afar, we can tell right away if what they’re saying doesn’t match what they mean. If they’re saying they’re happy but their bodies are saying they aren’t, we know. If their words say they’re telling the truth but their intonation doesn’t, we know that, too. It’s like having x-ray vision in the sense that we can see through the outside veil to what’s going on beneath.
But the question becomes, do we mention what we perceive, or do we leave things at face value? Being the honest people that we are, we want to tell. We want to approach someone and say, “I see you’re having a bad day. Do you want to talk about it?” but sometimes people spend so much time preparing their outer selves that they get very annoyed if we try to discuss anything but that.
It’s a tough place to be in. Sometimes we just really know something, but we can’t put our finger on how we know or explain our thoughts in some sort of logical manner to someone else, perhaps because we’re using something other than only logic to come to our conclusions. But if we share our perspectives, maybe we’ll be mocked or ignored, or mistrusted because we’ve talked about something no one else can see, or maybe we’ll be hailed as the hero who stood up against all odds to save the day.
Are our thoughts and experiences 100% correct every time? No, they’re not. Do we make mistakes? Certainly we do. But a lot of the time we’re right.
So what’s the answer? Maybe just to judge every situation as it comes, but expect less than joyous results for the most part. If we reveal the concealed truth, will we be respected, or slaughtered? Who knows? It could work out either way.
What have you done in your life when you’ve been faced with this kind of situation? Have you shared your feelings or kept them to yourself? And what happened in the end?
I’d love to hear about your experiences and how they worked out. Let’s learn to use and understand our deepest perceptions together.