Gifted Adults: To Tell, or Not to Tell – That is the Question

“It’s as plain as the nose on your face,” they say.  Nothing could be more obvious.  But sometimes, even though we can see the truth of the matter as clearly as a black rabbit on a fresh bed of white snow, no one else seems to notice it.  So do we bring it out into the open, or not?

As gifted adults, this is a dilemma that we face on a regular basis.  With our senses in high gear most of the time, we can see, hear, sense or understand things that many other people don’t even seem to realize exist.

When we’re in someone’s presence, or even sometimes even if we just hear them from afar, we can tell right away if what they’re saying doesn’t match what they mean.  If they’re saying they’re happy but their bodies are saying they aren’t, we know.  If their words say they’re telling the truth but their intonation doesn’t, we know that, too.  It’s like having x-ray vision in the sense that we can see through the outside veil to what’s going on beneath.

But the question becomes, do we mention what we perceive, or do we leave things at face value?  Being the honest people that we are, we want to tell.  We want to approach someone and say, “I see you’re having a bad day.  Do you want to talk about it?” but sometimes people spend so much time preparing their outer selves that they get very annoyed if we try to discuss anything but that.

It’s a tough place to be in.  Sometimes we just really know something, but we can’t put our finger on how we know or explain our thoughts in some sort of logical manner to someone else, perhaps because we’re using something other than only logic to come to our conclusions.  But if we share our perspectives, maybe we’ll be mocked or ignored, or mistrusted because we’ve talked about something no one else can see, or maybe we’ll be hailed as the hero who stood up against all odds to save the day.

Are our thoughts and experiences 100% correct every time?  No, they’re not.  Do we make mistakes?  Certainly we do.  But a lot of the time we’re right.

So what’s the answer?  Maybe just to judge every situation as it comes, but expect less than joyous results for the most part.  If we reveal the concealed truth, will we be respected, or slaughtered?  Who knows?  It could work out either way.

What have you done in your life when you’ve been faced with this kind of situation?  Have you shared your feelings or kept them to yourself?  And what happened in the end?

I’d love to hear about your experiences and how they worked out.  Let’s learn to use and understand our deepest perceptions together.

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  • MomBodySoul

    Great post.
    I tend to ‘tell’, except with my own family. I have to draw the line somewhere and protect myself!:)

    So far, it’s worked out for me. I find a lot of times that people are actually relieved to have someone to talk to about their stresses!

    Most of the time, the reaction I get is “How did you know?”

    I’ve been called ‘blunt’ many times, by others observing the situation, but it always seems to be appreciated in some way. Unless I’m completely unaware and they are actually annoyed 😉

  • La Texican

    Dude, that’s My Dilema. Are you reading my mind?

    Anyway, now I have a kid. And he’s got that same great inattentive observation and unaware Infomational synthesis , or, whatever the heck is happening. The hubby asked him directly if he knew what was going to happen before it happens. It’s like when you hear a song on the radio for the first time and you can sing along with it and get the words right. I used to do that a lot. In front of a BFF who knew about it too. She could do it too, a little bit. Haven’t glutted out on music like that in so many years.
    Haven’t done that in a while. You have to listen to a lot of radio to do that.

    Yeah, You’re right. Sometimes they get mad when you mention stuff nobody’s supposed to know about. Especially when nobody told you. But most people don’t get mad. You have made a really cool blog.

    • Sonia Dabboussi

      There are a lot of different ideas about how intuition happens. Some say it’s just learning to read the environment very well, others say it’s a skill we all possess but just don’t refine or use very often.

      I think reading the environment is an accurate response so some extent, like you mentioned with listening to a lot of radio to sing the songs accurately from the first time, but I think there’s something else, too. The environment doesn’t explain how you know who’s calling before the phone rings, especially when it’s someone you haven’t heard from in a very long time…

  • Ewa

    Hello, ici Genève. J’habite en Suisse et je parle FRABçAIS mais je crois que vous allez comprendre car un traducteur de goole est très bien pour traduire les phrases simples.

    J’ai toujours senti un maiuvais acteur ou je comprens mon chien ou les personnes avec handicap qui ne peuvent pas parler. Je sens la personne sincesre ou menteur. Mais je pense que c’est n’est PAS une magie. Je pense qu’à cause de” inhibition latente” base notre cerveau absorbe beaucoup PLUS des éléments, que le cerveau typique qui les filtre et rejette comme inutiles.
    C’est notre hyper-excitabilité su système nerveux et hyper sensibilité qui apporte une multitude des signaux. Notre cerveau quand il est plus performant il les gère bien . S’il est moins performant il peut avoir mal à supporter cette quantité et probablement la schizophrénie est peut-être un résultat quand le cerveau est surchargé. On dit, que HP -gifted, pense “en arborescence”. C’est comme un feux d’artifice dans la tête. Une cascade qui donne un résultat intuitif. Il est trop riche, trop complexe , pour le “comprendre” et expliquer. Mais il n’y a PAS de MAGIE c’est juste peu connu encore. Meilleures salutations