Is it really better to give than to receive?

Many of us are taught from a young age that it’s better to give than to receive. But isn’t that a strange thought? If we give, by nature of the act itself, someone else must receive, so does that make us better than they are, or them worse than us?

Maybe in some odd way this thought ties into one of the reasons why we tend to reject our giftedness – because we are on the receiving end of a gift. We don’t want it, we don’t want it to be given to us, so we’re quick to send it away to someone else… (Perhaps so we can then be the giver?)

Take a moment now and think back to a time when you gave someone a gift that he or she was absolutely thrilled with. How did that make you feel? My guess is that you were on top of the clouds because your gesture was appreciated and loved in the strongest way. It really was great, wasn’t it?

Now turn that situation around. When were you extremely happy with something someone else gave you? What feelings could you tell that the other person was experiencing?

Giving and receiving are two ends of the same spectrum. You can’t have one without the other.

Whatever your spiritual beliefs are, or whatever your thoughts about how you got to be you are, somewhere in there is probably the idea that you were made to be who you are for a reason. Life doesn’t appear to be random, so things must be the way they are for some particular purpose.

You were given your giftedness for a reason, a purpose. And by receiving your gift gracefully, you honour the One who gave it to you, whomever you understand that to be.

So next time you question your giftedness, ask yourself this:

1. Would you honestly and truly give your giftedness away if you could?
2. What would happen if you accepted your giftedness gracefully? How many more blessings would you receive?

You have received a great gift.  Now how can you give?

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  • Marfusha

    I wouldn’t give my gift away. I, contrary to some, think it is wrong to give happiness, but receive grief in return.

    I would share it.

    With everyone, to make the world a better place. To put a smile on their lips and sunshine in their mind’s eye.

    I envision my “sharing” as contributing to the defeat of global warming, violence, government problems, and generally making the world a happier, open, and more pleasant place to live, even for the minority.

    • Sonia Dabboussi

      Those are awesome things to do, so I hope you follow the deepest calling of your heart and reach out to the world in this way.

      Which one would you love to do first?