You don’t have to finish what you start!

Gifted adults have interests in so many things they often find themselves getting caught in the never-finish-what-you-started syndrome.  They begin somewhere around 1000 projects, or so it seems, and never really reach the end of any of them. Then, of course, they duly proceed to beat themselves up about this, reminding themselves of how totally unsuccessful they are, AGAIN, because one more thing is left undone.

But there is good news…

You don’t have to finish what you start!!

Well, sort of.

For many people, finishing something means following it through to completion.  But for the gifted person this actually has a whole different meaning.  They follow things through to completion, just not the same completion as everyone else.

Did I confuse you yet?

For gifted adults, learning new things is often one of their top priorities.  Because learning in and of itself is so important, finishing something for a gifted person can be as simple as completing the learning to the level they wanted, even if that means leaving a task undone.

Think of a puzzle.  One without a box.  What is this for someone who’s gifted?  A super-duper wonderful challenge just begging to be accepted! The puzzle needs to be put together, but there’s no way to tell what it’s a picture of until they start doing it.

So the gifted adult starts putting the pieces together, one by one, until the image begins to take shape.  Then, in one miraculous instant they figure out the picture the puzzle makes!  They’re so happy – they’ve beaten the challenge.  And I’m sure somewhere they’re probably thinking something like, “Well I  beat that, now didn’t I?  It was so much fun to do this without any hints anywhere!”

What comes next?  They walk away from the puzzle with the remaining pieces scattered on the table.  And they never come back to it. Family members or friends look at the unfinished work and ask when it will be done.  The gifted person doesn’t really know.  When they get around to it, they say.

But of course they never get around to it because they’ve already finished what they set out to do – to figure out the picture on the puzzle.  What does it look like to everyone else?  Unfinished business, AGAIN.

So if you find yourself starting many things and leaving a lot of them undone, start paying attention to the point at which you are stopping them.  If you take note of these end point for a while, you’ll likely start being able to see what the big motivations are in your life. They may be things like the excitement of learning something new, the thrill of meeting a challenge, or the adventure of beating your own previous skill level or ability.

Then you will more easily be able to say to those who are quick to remind you of your unfinished business, “I’ve gotten exactly what I needed out of that, thank you.  For me, it’s perfectly finished!”

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

    It all depends on what you mean by “finished”…

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      That’s exactly the point. Once you’ve gotten what you need from something you’ve ‘finished’, even if what’s visible on the outside doesn’t appear to be.
      I’m glad you’ve totally understood! 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1593301250 Drew Campbell

      It was such a relief to see you explain so clearly what I’ve been trying to express to people for years! Thank you so much!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      You are absolutely welcome, Drew.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

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    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=679336628 Heather Johnson Quintero

    Wow… I resemble this.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1119801572 Sonia L. Dabboussi

      Suddenly you discover that who you are and what you do is exactly right… Isn’t it great? 🙂

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1271860097 Kristien Dirven

      Join the group Heather, cuz so do I 😉
      I always thought I gave things up too easily but at the same time somehow knew I didn’t.
      The joy it brings to finally feel okay about being different 🙂