When Giftedness Clashes with Apples

Sometimes things that are so incredibly obvious to you are just hidden in the dark for other people.  And it can be very frustrating.

How about this…

Some friends and I went apple picking today.  We stopped at the first friend’s apartment building in front of the door so she could bring her 15 pound bag of apples and other things upstairs.  She was in a hurry because she was late for an appointment.  The second friend took one of her bags of apples and a few items to her car which was about 5 or 6 spaces down in the lot.  I thought it would be a good idea to help her with the rest of her apples and personal belongings.

Apparently that was a bad decision.

Here’s what happened next:

  • I thought about whether or not I should help my friend carry her things or just drive 5 spaces forward and park beside her.
  • I looked around the lot to see if many spaces were empty and found most full, meaning, to me at least, that the majority of the people were home.
  • I noted the traffic at the time to see if the two spaces I was blocking would be immediately needed or not, and everything was quiet.
  • I debated whether it would be a worthwhile step or just lazy to move the car such a short distance and decided that the walk wasn’t nearly far enough to warrant moving.
  • I considered how long it would take me to go to the end of the parking lot and back if someone did happen to come and figured I could be back at my car before they even realized they should start looking for me.

All of this processing took place in about 10 seconds.

So after all of those thoughts and decisions flashed through my head, I came to the conclusion that I should just carry my friend’s things to her and then go.  I grabbed the apples etc., left the back door of the car open so that if anyone happened to come they would realize I wasn’t far away, and started through the lot.

I had taken only a few steps when a couple of people came out of the building and started yelling at me for leaving my car there and blocking the parking spaces by the door.  I told them (with my hands loaded with 20 pounds of stuff) that I just had to give these things to my friend, who happened to be walking toward me by that time, and I would be leaving.

That answer wasn’t good enough for them it seemed and they kept yelling.  Then the  rebel in me came out.   I just turned away from them, handed the things to my friend and went back toward the car.

The yelling woman approached me, now using a gentler tone, and said I couldn’t park the way that I had, but if I wanted to pull up between the two parking spaces I was blocking (there was about a 2-foot marked off area between the spaces) I was very welcome to do that.

My brain once again raced to process the data.  I couldn’t stop where I had stopped because I blocked two parking spaces by the door, but I could straddle the gap between the same two spaces, blocking both of them that way, and that would be fine.


I wanted to explain my perspective and how what she was telling me really wasn’t any different that what I was doing, but, thinking through that as well, I concluded that she wouldn’t understand anyway and it wasn’t worth the hassle.  So I just got in my car and left, which is what I was planning on doing anyway.

So how does giftedness clash with apples?

If you ever have to carry big apple bags for a friend and completely analyze the best way to do that before you begin, realize that everyone else around you probably hasn’t done that, and won’t do that, and maybe even can’t do that.  So don’t be surprised if, after considering everyone else, someone is quick to let you know how terribly wrong you were in your decision.

Welcome to being gifted!

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  • Redmek06

    So… I’m NOT the only one who thinks like that? I’ve seriously thought there was something wrong with me–most people’s reactions have seemed to validate that conclusion.