Lost at a Crossroads

Far too many times in life we’re faced with decisions about where to go or what to do, and sometimes we feel like we really haven’t a clue about which way to go. As gifted people, our creativity and imaginations kick in and and we consider, not only if we should go right or left, but if we should travel on one of the multitudes of variations anywhere in between. So how do we decide?

For the most part we learn to take the logical approach.  We write down the pros and cons of each of our choices and go with the one that has the most positive points.  Or we take the path that the highest number of people around us are suggesting we take because that seems to make the most sense .

But there is another option…

After going through the logical choices, we have to consider which of them feels best.  This is the part of ourselves that we tend to ignore the most but is the one that can lead us along paths we wouldn’t otherwise take and that can bring us the greatest level of ultimate satisfaction – our intuitions.

We must ask ourselves, “If I were to know with absolute certainty which one of these choices is best for me, which one would it be?”  Then we actually have to LISTEN for the answer.  It’s usually the small voice that comes first when we talk to ourselves, before our logical mind steps in and joins the conversation.  And, more often than not, it can very well be one of the options our logical minds wouldn’t have suggested!

Start doing this will the little things and you’ll find before you know it that the big decisions will become easier, too.

So when you have a decision to make about something in your life, think logically about it, and then consult your intuitive side as well. It may have the answer you’re really looking for!

 

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  • elena

    I am taking this as a sign, I read Exactly the same thing last night about trusting intuitions and it is really something I should do more! 
    Thank you very much! 

    • http://giftedforlife.com Sonia Dabboussi

      Hmm… It sounds like your intuition is trying to tell you something… 🙂

    • http://giftedforlife.com giftedforlife

      Hmm… It sounds like your intuition is trying to tell you something…

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  • tika

    This is so true, but … I’m  having so much trouble hearing the little voice….

    • http://giftedforlife.com giftedforlife

      It may take you some time to get used to hearing it again, but it’s still there for you.  If you haven’t used a muscle in a while it may be weak but it isn’t gone.

      You can start redeveloping this skill by listening during the quiet times when you don’t have a lot of commotion going on around you, or when you’re doing mundane tasks like washing dishes or brushing your teeth.  When your mind isn’t so occupied with other things, and you’re focusing on listening, it’s sometimes surprising what you hear!

  • Anon

    the little voice leads to the scariest path sometimes

  • RLekha

    I am lost at a crossroads AND stuck. I am in my 40s, recently divorced from a mentally abusive marriage, and raised without guidance. I am trying to figure out the next career path. I read and resonate with underachieving, and all the other traits, qualities here… but what do I do now? If I pick one area and become an expert there, I’m shutting myself off from soooo many other things. I want to do everything! But then I get overwhelmed with clutter and noise and not having enough time to myself to process complex interactions with people and pay attention to my needs. I have no idea what to do next or how.

    I’m just now making the connection to giftedness after years of psychotherapy and self discovery – I was put into the gifted program in the 3rd grade and I have been distrustful of it. I always thought there was something wrong with me. I didn’t fit in; I would get things easily, and wonder what I was missing when everyone else was struggling with answers. I get bored easily. I can’t find a match in a relationship because in addition to everything else, I also need an intelligent, active, and kind mind. I have been called quirky over and over and over again. People treat me like I’m weird. So it’s no wonder when I have no idea what to make of it when at the same time, I’m told I’m attractive and look like I’m 25. People either stay clear of me, or feel the need to bump up against me/attack me for their own ego trips.

    So now. Filled with self doubt, lack of confidence or what have you, what am I supposed to do now? I need a new career path that will be fulfilling, where male bosses aren’t appropriating my ideas as their own, where I don’t have to bump up against gender biases and racial discrimination, and where I can find financial stability.

    • Floborg

      I’m almost the same as you (except for the marriage part). some say just calm down, and the answer will come. We tend to be impatient too :). Let’s stick together!

    • http://www.theauthorpro.com Adonna

      “what am I supposed to do now? I need a new career path that will be fulfilling, where male bosses aren’t appropriating my ideas as their own, where I don’t have to bump up against gender biases and racial discrimination, and where I can find financial stability.”

      This is what self-employment is for. Make your own rules and run your own show. That’s what I did. Good luck to you!!!