Let’s Venture Into the Darkness…

Let’s venture into the darkness for a moment, into an area that frequently gets avoided because of its off-the-wall nature, and our need to see and express well beyond the norm just to touch its surface…

Gifted adults often experience life with a heightened sense of experience.  Whether its vision, or hearing, or touch, or smell or taste, or an intertwined version of these, our senses are on high alert.  We bring in and process stimuli that, on many occasions, other people don’t even notice, and we do it with intensity.  This by itself magnifies our understanding of our world.

But far too often our senses don’t stop there.  With our intellectual ability to conceptualize beyond what is currently in front of us and our peak sensory awareness, sometimes we reach into very unexplored territory — the land of the unseen where logic as we know it is left aside.

Sometimes we get a feeling someone is going to call right before the phone rings, and when we answer its exactly who we were thinking of.  Sometimes we get the idea that we should travel in one direction and not another, only to find out later on that our initial path held significant disaster.

And sometimes, when we really aren’t expecting it, we sense that someone is standing in the room with us when there visibly isn’t anyone there, or we hear a message whose source we can’t identify, or we know something about someone that we have no real way of knowing.

How do these things happen?  I’m not really sure.  But I know that they are part of who we are and what we experience.  And I know, just like with any other part of our giftedness, we can choose to explore them or we can push them back into the darkness and pretend they’re not there.

Reaching into an area that goes so far beyond the norm takes a leap of faith because there’s no real way of knowing what to expect.  And very likely we’ll have little support along the way because no one else seems to understand what we’re talking about.  Unless, of course, we can find other people like us.

For those who are brave enough, I’d love to hear how this has affected your life and in what ways you have touched this invisible yet intriguing realm.  Avoid your real name if you prefer, but share nonetheless.  You may really make a difference for someone else going through the same thing.

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  • FrancieKat

    A great deal of my interpersonal interactions are informed by “knowing things about people” that I have no conscious way of knowing. It also shifts into ordinary activities too: problem solving at work, choosing routes or responses when driving, etc.

    A long time ago, in a drawing class based on Betty Edwards book “Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain”, a teacher explained this a the way the non verbal right brain communicates information that isn’t quantifiably measureable. I think it has to do with the speed we process information. In practise, it can feel like I am a great mystery, even to myself at times.

    When I feel comfortable and relaxed with myself, these experiences increase and flow. If I sense they are taboo in a given context, they can cause a lot of stress because I need to work to present myself as ignorant to avoid social censure. This is probably an area worth researching in relation to giftedness and underachievement.

    It helps to be with people who are accepting of this type of experience. Often, I find creative people ( artists, but also older scientists) tend to provide this kind of support. Of course, that could just reflect my friendship preferences too!

    My social interactions are shaped greatly by this phenomenon. People tend to either gravitate towards me because they want to be seen authentically for who they are (like in the movie “Avatar”), or they are threatened. It can be wonderful because there can be deep connections with people, or awful if they react out of fear.

    There is a lot of interest in how to cultivate this ability thse days. Paradoxically, I find it’s by not trying too hard that I tend to have these experiences. Aside from supportive internal and external environmentals ( with support being subjectively defined), I find being playful, creative and thinking in triplicities instead of duplicities enhances this capacity too.