Depression comes in many forms for the gifted adult. The word ‘depression’ is used so commonly these days, the meaning people associate with it can be anything from feeling a little down or not quite yourself, to full blown clinical depression that requires medication to address.
For the most part, depression among the gifted stems fundamentally from the gap between who we are and who we were meant to be. This is not always a conscious gap, but for sure we feel it there.
As gifted adults we always have to be learning and exploring. That’s just part of our nature – a big part that we can’t live without.
When we stop growing we start dying, in a sense, which for many shows up as depression. If we get bogged down with taking care of other people, or we find ourselves stuck in uneventful routines day after day our brains start clamouring for our attention. And we start to feel it in our everyday emotions.
Add to all of this the high levels of emotion we perceive regularly anyway and we have a recipe for trouble.
If we start to notice that we’re spending more time in the lows than in the highs in our lives, we have to pay attention to what we’ve been doing.
- Have we been eating well and physically moving to help keep our bodies healthy?
- Have we been taking time for ourselves to explore some of the topics we’re interested in?
- Have we been challenging ourselves to do something unique that really excites us?
- Have we been connecting with other gifted people so we can share our experiences with other people who understand us?
- Have we been looking toward future ways to keep our lives motivating?
If you’re feeling down and you’ve answered no to these questions, then you have a place to focus on to begin picking yourself up. Pay attention to what helps you feel better and when (maybe you need to be busier in the morning instead of the afternoon, for example). Try writing down your reflections on your ‘up’ times so you can go back and look for any connections between them later on.
And please share here what works for you or someone you know so together we can learn and grow and help each other.