Gifted is a Bad Word

For some people, the word gifted comes with positive feelings of ability, success and potential. But for many it brings with it a lot of pain.

As gifted adults, we live in a complex and intense world that sometimes is quite a lot to handle. Without others around us who understand what we’re going through, the journey can be quite a difficult one to say the least. Add on top of that… the negative stigma and outlandish expectations that come with the term gifted and we’ve got quite a hot potato in our hands.

Looking at our lives from the outside, especially during our school days, people often think we’ve got it made. They think understanding always comes easy for us and good marks are ours even if we don’t to anything to earn them. They think we shouldn’t need help with anything and can survive just fine on our own because we spend a lot of time working independently without asking for much.

Then they look at their own lives and think about how much they have to work and study to get an A.  They know how frustrated they feel when they can’t figure out something.  And they start looking down on us because they think we have it made and they don’t.

But are we any better than anyone else?   Nope.

Does everything come easy for us?  For sure not.

Do we have our own set of challenges that we have to overcome?  Absolutely!

But not everyone can see those things and, with so much negativity, gifted becomes a bad word.

The BIG problem is, with time after time after time of hearing and seeing negativity around us, we start to take on that feeling ourselves and begin to believe that maybe everyone else is right after all. And then we ourselves think it’s bad to be gifted.

So we hide what we experience, and shut off what we feel, and ignore our thoughts and instincts because we’ve discovered that doing anything but that leads to pain. And we understand that all of the gifted parts of us are not good and should be hidden from the world.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

It’s not easy being a gifted adult by any means. It offers challenges and difficulties just as a physical limitation or learning disability might offer to someone who has one. But does that mean that we shouldn’t push thorough those difficulties and do everything we can to share all parts of ourselves in any way we can to benefit ourselves and others?  Definitely not.

So is gifted really a bad word?

Only unless you want it to be.

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  • Guest

    Just don’t call yourself a “gifted adult” and everything will be fine. What purpose does it serve to try an identify yourself to others?

    • Guest

       Would it then also be inappropriate to call yourself American, or French, or a man/woman or paraplegic then?  It is what it is.