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Outstanding Reading – What Do You Suggest?
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April 10, 2011


Sonia Dabboussi

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As gifted adults, we all have read books that have moved us, shaped us and made us think.  We've discovered words that have captured the essence of our thoughts and feelings, and phrases that have touched our hearts.  So we're making a list…

…A list of books that have made the…


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April 10, 2011


Sonia Dabboussi

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A couple of books on giftedness that are really great are:

The Gifted Adult: A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

Gifted Grownups: The Mixed Blessings of Extraordinary Potential by Marylou Kelly Streznewski

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April 20, 2011


Sonia Dabboussi

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Hello, Lena.

I'm glad that I'm really getting to know you, even if it's here online through discussion for now. It would really be my pleasure to meet you in person some day.

Thanks for the updates you've given here. I hadn't forgotten about your teacher and was wondering what had happened on that front. Her reluctance to talk to you could be interpreted in many ways and it's difficult to tell from here what the problem may be exactly. I would guess a few things: that she really is gifted and you've been able to see what most other people can't which makes her uncomfortable; she hasn't previously considered that she may be gifted and is now going through some contemplation on her own; she feels challenged in some way because you're academically advanced and perhaps can tell when she makes mistakes; or any other number of things. It's something to think about in any case.

As for your friends, it's easy to feel that other people around you are 'stupid' because they can't follow or process things in the same way you do. I would caution against using this type of word to describe them though because it can lead you too easily into coming across as arrogant or condescending. And they aren't really stupid anyway, just different than you are.

It's important to hang onto your giftedness even if it isn't readily accepted by the people around you. Way too often people 'conform to the norm' in order to get by and to gain acceptance in some way, and they lose themselves in the process. Hang onto Hui Ting if you get along well, and spend time doing the things you love when you can. That will help for sure.

And as for your latest interest in books, that's a great way to explore the world and delve into topics you enjoy. Plus, it's a trait that many gifted people share, to the extent that there's actually a book about gifted children called, "Some of My Best Friends Are Books". Interesting, don't you think?

One more quick thing: I posted your Yahoo Answers question in the forum here so that other gifted people at Gifted for Life can offer their thoughts and advice as well. There have been a couple of responses there if you'd like to chime in!

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May 3, 2011


Marfusha

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Sonia –

Thank you for all the suggestions of why my teacher is acting this way. I would like to know, however, how you reached these conclusions.

I must admit, it feels to me as if "decoding" my teacher is trying to solve an equation with two or more variables — impossible if there is only one equation. I try to find the meaning of one or more variables so I can narrow it all down to the meaning of a single variable, but alas, I fail to do so.

This analogy may not quite give you an idea of how I feel, but for me, it describes the scene perfectly. 
In the end, however, it all amounts to one thing — no matter how much one "decodes" a teacher, one can never really know the truth unless one asks. 

I know they aren't stupid. 
All my life before this, I've been able to sufficiently cope with the intelligence of my peers. I knew that, compared to that of mine, theirs is somewhat inferior. I could deal with it fine, though — I saw no problem in explaining something to my peers, or seeming like a know-it-all in school. Now, however, I start to doubt that my peers are really "average". I know that there is almost no way, in terms of probability, that such an amount of people end up acting and being duller than average. But to me, their "stupidity" is seeming now to be so grand, that I can no longer accept the possibility of them being normal. 
I know it's just me and NOT them. I know they're normal, but the mental difference is now so big that they now fit my perception of "very stupid". 
I am having trouble coping with this.

You say that one can lost their giftedness, eh? 
I didn't have the time, but in the other thread about my Yahoo Answers question, I wanted to post something like this:
I believe that my friend is gifted. A feeling of intuition tells me so. And yet, by being wtih the popular people, she has diminished her usage of her giftedness. She is a gifted person gone wrong, my intuition tells me. 
I might continue on that thread when I have the time. 

My interest in books isn't recent, not at all. Ever since I learned to read, it has been there. A driving urge to find, absorb, swallow new information, more like. In fact, much to the disturb of Hui Ting, I find information overload very pleasurable. Also, the problem with my teacher — you have noticed how persistently I want to "decode" her. Hui Ting also finds my constant search for answers, information and books slightly disturbing.

Please excuse the belatedness, I haven't much time these days.  

Thank you once again.

Lena

May 18, 2012


Sonia Dabboussi

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Thanks so much for the very thoughtful reply. You have been through so much in your life, and, you are right, there are many other children and youth who are today still going through the same things. Passing the message to those who are still struggling is so important. Imagine how many years of pain people have lived through, not knowing what was 'wrong' or how to 'fix' it? Imagine finally discovering that what was 'wrong' is actually what was, and is, 'right'? We have much work to do I believe. I hope someone reading your words here will find the light that has been hidden inside himself or herself, and will discover he or she can be, do and have so much more…

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com



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