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October 21, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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Hand in hand with intelligence for gifted people is intense emotion and perception of the world.  Aren't we lucky?

We feel things often at an extreme level or in a way that no one else seems to understand.  We want to express ourselves fully, but because our thoughts are so frequently 'out there' we bottle them up along with the enthusiasm and energy that goes along with them.

This is definitely going to be the place to share some of your thoughts, ideas, energies because here is a crowd who won't think you're on another planet because we're all on the same one. laugh

What have some of your biggest challenges been?  How have to dealt with working with people who have no clue what you're talking about?  What have you found yourself wrestling with inside when your inner and outer worlds don't match?

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

November 2, 2010


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One of my biggest challenges has been to find other people like me.  I mean, ones who really understand what I'm talking about and who don't look at me funny when I describe what I think or express how I really feel.

I've found a few people recently who belong to the realm of the gifted, and I must say that that's been very liberating for me, and I think for them, too. 

Now I'm looking forward to finding a whole lot more!

November 3, 2010


MomBodySoul

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I think for me, a big challenge has been finding (or at least feeling like) people who understand me. 

I feel things really deeply and have so much going on in my head and my heart and no one really to share it with.  I enjoy having a deep inner life, it's just that sometimes you wanna share your quirky thoughts.

Instead, people tell me "Why do you have to be so complicated?" or "You think too much!" or "Why do you have to look into EVERYTHING?"

Because I love it, that's why!

For example, I really really love brainstorming/idea sharing, but I can tell that other people get burnt out from listening/sharing in my excitement, whereas I could go on for a realy long time on a lot of topics, and so I hold back so that I don't overburden people.

This 'holding back' really kept me from knowing who I really am and what I want to do and I had a lot of inner work to do to untangle the mess I created. 

gtg, baby crying

I guess this is kinda disjointed, hope it made sense out there…it made sense in my head! lol

November 4, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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The idea of 'holding back' is one that is extremely common among gifted people.  By nature we are very intense, so as a result we learn to hold ourselves back to avoid overwhelming other people. 

Oftentimes when we do fully express ourselves we either get quizzical looks from whomever we're talking to, or we get slammed for saying 'something so stupid' or the like.  Just for the sake of personal and emotional safety we clam up, or at least water down our expressions.

The resulting questions from all of this for me would be, in what ways can we truly express ourselves comfortably, and how can we avoid overwhelming those around us without feeling like we've totally dumbed ourselves down to do that?

Thoughts?

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

November 5, 2010


MomBodySoul

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hmm, I haven't figured that out yet.  Even after being with people who are also intense, but maybe more shy, I always kick myself for talking too much!  I tend to overpower the conversation because I'm so excited to have someone listen to my off-the-wall conversations, then I drive home wishing I hadn't talked so much 🙁

So, ya, still workin on that one.

One thing I've found helps though, is writing.  I feel like it lets off some steam while still being able to "get all my words out." and still feeling free to express myself without worrying I'm talking too much.  That way when the person on the other end feels like it's all too much, they can just stop reading 🙂

November 30, 2010


Iman Kouvalis

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I know a guy who is somewhat like this.  He has this pressing need to get out all of his thoughts, reflections and philosophies on everything!  He once told us that even he has a limit and he realized his limit is 14 hours of conversation!! But he has to hold back because he knows that others can't handle that. 

On the receiving end, we just become so worn out after two hours!  Things that we think are just simple and ready to move on with, he has this need to dig much deeper and keep talking about them. 🙂

It's a funny situation.

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December 1, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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Sometimes the solution to this situation is to find other ways of expressing yourself that aren't overwhelming for other people. When you've got so many things going on in your head it's hard to keep them all in there, and to avoid a brain explosion it probably isn't a good idea to do that anyway.

When there's too much going on and other people can't handle your need for expression, there are several things you can do:
1. Write your thoughts down! This is the best way to get them out of your head without causing trouble for anyone else. But don't do this in an email! Make sure it's somewhere that only you can read it for now. If you need to share some part of it again later, choose what's most relevant to the situation and just give that.
2. Record yourself on audio or video. Using an audio or video journal works for those people who prefer that type of media. This is actually a good method of figuring out what you sound like to the people who you're asking to listen to you. You might even be overwhelming to yourself!
3. Find a friend to talk to who absolutely loves the topic in the same depth as you do. That way you can go on for hours and neither of you will tire of the other.

Those are my ideas for now. Who's next to share some creative ideas about positive expression?

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

December 1, 2010


MomBodySoul

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haha. Love #3.  My sister in law is visiting from out of town and we've been staying up till 4am every.single.night the past few days talking about natural health, herbals, and supplements! 

I did make a note to myself before to do some audios, but I'm really not a fan of my voice when it's played back. I'll have to work on that one!

December 1, 2010


MomBodySoul

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oh and wow, could I have used the word "much" any more in post #5?? LoL

December 12, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

Canada

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Natural health, herbals and supplements?  That sounds interesting. You'll have to be sure to share some of your knowledge about these here.  They could be a great way for us to maintain our health as we're doing the amazing things we want to do in life!

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com



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