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What makes you gifted?

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October 21, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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There are so many characteristics that make you gifted – some that are easy to accept and use and others that aren't.  It comes in handy to be smart and makes doing well in school so much easier, if you want it to, but being super intense with your emotions can be harder to handle.

 

What aspects of what makes you unique do you love, and which ones do you need to work on?

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

November 20, 2010


MomBodySoul

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For me, the thing is LOVE Is my caring about social injustices, for people I don't even know, for causes that have not directly affected me. I am happy that I can feel so deeply, so much empathy without much effort, because it pushes me forward to serve humankind, which is what I know I was born to do!

I also love that I can read people's emotions, soemtimes even before they've had a chance to process them! It gets challenging though, when others are acting like nothing is the matter, and yet I know otherwise.  I can feel every negative emotion in the room and I get tense.  It does wear me out, and makes it difficult to sleep at times.  I tend to take on everyone else's emotions, on top of my own. 

I see the amazing gift I have, I guess I just need to figure out a way to not let it all get to me, all the time.  I'm doing a bit better by creating boundaries with some more negative people I come into contact with, so it's a start!

November 21, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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You've raised a lot of amazing points here MomBodySoul!  The feeling of wanting to help other people, especially in a big way, is something that is very common among gifted people.  As a matter of fact, it's one of the things that makes us gifted!  For me, this is one reason why I think it's so important for gifted adults to connect with one another – because they can share their desires and abilities to change the world.  And we know for the gifted that 1+1=infinity!

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

November 21, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

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MomBodySoul said:

I also love that I can read people's emotions, soemtimes even before they've had a chance to process them! It gets challenging though, when others are acting like nothing is the matter, and yet I know otherwise.  I can feel every negative emotion in the room and I get tense.  It does wear me out, and makes it difficult to sleep at times.  I tend to take on everyone else's emotions, on top of my own. 


This is actually an amazing skill that is ofted found in gifted people as well.  The challenges are exactly as you mentioned – that sometimes other people are doing their very best to hide their emotions, sometimes even from themselves, so when you bring them up the people around you can sometimes get offended or angry.
 

The idea is to learn to read people well enough so that you can help them work through their emotions when they're ready for that and not necessarily when you notice it in them.  It's a careful walk we need to take here so that we can help and not hurt.

Another challenge is to make sure that, even if we detect other people's emotions, that we don't collect them ourselves.  We need to be able to recognize what we feel vs. what we feel about or for other people.  Otherwise we get totally worn down be tons of emotions.  We have enough of our own – we don't need extra from everywhere else.

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

December 12, 2010


Sonia Dabboussi

Canada

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One of the things I like about being gifted is problem solving abilities.  I love being able to see a situation and find an assortment of ways for it to progress, and then find just as many ways, if not more, to make it work out in a great way, or at least as good as possible, for everyone involved.

It's wonderful to be able to help someone else and make their lives better somehow. 🙂

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

April 19, 2011


Kristien Dirven

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Sonia Dabboussi said:

MomBodySoul said:

I also love that I can read people's emotions, soemtimes even before they've had a chance to process them! It gets challenging though, when others are acting like nothing is the matter, and yet I know otherwise.  I can feel every negative emotion in the room and I get tense.  It does wear me out, and makes it difficult to sleep at times.  I tend to take on everyone else's emotions, on top of my own. 


This is actually an amazing skill that is ofted found in gifted people as well.  The challenges are exactly as you mentioned – that sometimes other people are doing their very best to hide their emotions, sometimes even from themselves, so when you bring them up the people around you can sometimes get offended or angry.
 

The idea is to learn to read people well enough so that you can help them work through their emotions when they're ready for that and not necessarily when you notice it in them.  It's a careful walk we need to take here so that we can help and not hurt.

Another challenge is to make sure that, even if we detect other people's emotions, that we don't collect them ourselves.  We need to be able to recognize what we feel vs. what we feel about or for other people.  Otherwise we get totally worn down be tons of emotions.  We have enough of our own – we don't need extra from everywhere else.

That's exactly what I'm trying to learn at the moment : differentiating between their emotions and mine, as I absorbe other people's feeling too strongly/much for my own health (never knew I did this, untill becoming aware of it after talks with my psychologist).

Anyone has some "tools" to help me with that ?

I've gone so far in the absorption process, that I seem to have almost no more emotions of myself unless passive emotions : e.g. I can't get angry about something, just disappointed. Or is it "normal" for us to feel these more passive emotions??

I "blame" it on the fact that I seem to be able to understand other people "too much" and tend to turn their active emotions into a passive emotions for me (if that makes any sense to you). Anyway, I'm still stuck concerning this topic ;-)

 

April 20, 2011


Sonia Dabboussi

Canada

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One of the first steps in avoiding collecting other people's energy is just to recognize that it can happen. Energy collection tends to happen where there are a lot of people and/or when you're around someone who either sends out or draws to them large amounts of energy.  I'm sure we've all had the experience at one time or another of being uneasy around someone, or feeling very happy or very bad around someone without any obvious reason for the feeling.

If you start feeling overwhelmed by emotion you can ask yourself if what you're feeling is really from you or if it's whatever someone else around you is sending out.  If you decide it isn't all you, it's a good idea to simply move away from the person for a while.  If you're farther away from them for a while it will help.

You can also take some time to revitalize yourself at various points in the day if you'd like.  Sitting or lying quietly in a comfortable place and just taking a few deep, focused breaths can really help.  If you'd like, as you're taking you deep breaths, you can imagine inhaling positive energy and exhaling any negative energy you may have collected.  Focusing on something specific and tuning out the rest of the world helps quiet your mind and relax you, and the extra oxygen you're taking in helps rejuvenate you physically as well.

I'm not sure what your spiritual beliefs are, but if you believe in a higher power, taking time to connect to it in whatever way works for you can help you reconnect to yourself as well and release any emotions that may be influencing you.

 

If you try any of these things I'd love to know how it goes for you.  Keep us posted!

And I hope you'll find your way back to outstanding health!

Gifted for Life – Find the freedom, skill and motivation to live, love and lead with passion and make an evolutionary impact on the world!  giftedforlife.com

April 21, 2011


Kristien Dirven

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I'm indeed glad that I'm slowly realising that all those emotions I feel (a real turmoil at times) are not always mine.

If I recognise it while it is happening, I indeed try to "block out" those other emotions by keeping my distance from the person they are originating from.
Doesn't mean I can avoid feeling them (yet), but at least I can stop the amount of them.

I'm really gonna try your suggestion about the focused breathing, silly I didn't think of that myself : I've dived for a few years and if I really needed to completely relax under water, that's what I did as well (and it really helped).

I will keep you posted !!

 

 

May 10, 2011


Kristien Dirven

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It works !!

:-)

I visited an old study friend last weekend.
She and her husband were having some marital issues (she's emotional, he's rational).
I'll never interfere with that, but as I'm a great listener (I blame that on my "talk to me" face, haha)…

And there I was, suddenly aware I was getting very very tense and REALISING it came from my friend.
I kept on listening but at the same time tried to block and release the tension she was "giving" me.
Focused breathing and being conscious of it happening… it's a small step for man, but a giant leap for me ;-) dealing with it!!



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